“Why on earth would you ever want to focus on fun?” she asked in a very serious tone. I was taken aback by this statement. I thought everyone could have more fun in their lives. I know I can always squeeze in a little more fun. I paused for a moment, realizing I would have to quickly prepare a counter-argument in support of fun. I came back with “Something very interesting happens when you focus on fun…you start having fun!”
More fun tips the balance over from being content to being truly happy. A place where you enjoy way more than 50% of your life, where happy times are in abundance. Dictionary.com defines luxury as “free or habitual indulgence in or enjoyment of comforts and pleasures in addition to those necessary for a reasonable standard of well-being”. A reasonable standard for well-being will keep you content, but living a luxurious life will keep you truly happy.
If you are happier, life’s stressors won’t bog you down and keep you focussed on negative mental chatter. You will be much more free to experience life outside your head, to take in the all of the wonders around you. It is supposed to pour rain for two days starting tonight. Instead of focussing on how wet I am going to get when I walk the dogs tomorrow morning and how I am going to have to wipe up the floors from their messy wet paws after I bring them in, I am going to take in the Mind at Large and focus outside my own head. I will take the water washing the spring mess away, the birds singing their spring songs while they stay hunkered down in the trees and the joy the dogs show when they shake themselves dry as soon as they get inside. This external focus will allow me to focus on you instead of me. It allows to be of service to others, to help them become happier and to pay it forward.
I ended my counter argument with “Focussing on fun turns my life into a luxurious one where I am in a much better position to help others.”